We are the same

Beneath those wispy veneers we

Are all the same

The same kindred spirits

The same bittersweet suffering souls

The same festering fears

The same inky insecurities

The same neurotic obsessions

We all have the same wounds

Yet instead of walking in

Each other’s shoes

We choose to tread on

Each other’s toes

And build walls around

Our vulnerable souls

Instead of building bridges.  

The demons in our closets…


We’re all wrestling the monsters of our own making.

The wounds that define us.

The demons that rear their ugly head.

Threatening to swallow us in their womb.

What is it we won’t do to evade them?

Just about anything not to confront them.

Fill the voids with meaningless banter.

Drown the screams in a busy din.

Seek solace in any passion or addiction

Fill our searing soul’s hunger with food

Punctuate our aches in the arms

Of retail therapy and coffee

All of these are nothing

But temporary refuges.

With the touch of the traces of time

These monsters become home for us.

Another year slips by

End of the year is for celebrations of a year gone by as well as some stock taking and reminiscing about lessons etched in the echelons of memory.

They say you should look ahead, but how can you ever do that without looking back, ruminating of the days gone by and drawing the right kind of lessons..

1) You never quite have it all. There’s always room for more. What eventually matters is learning to remain content as long as the basics are in place.

2) To win some battles you’ve got to lose all you’ve got. The first step is to conquer the insurmountable walls of our ego.

3) No one can give unconditionally all relationships personal and professional just reflect and echo what we give them.

4) With time our inner circle will shrink only to a few people who’ll stand by us through thick and thin. But even when no one’s standing you’ve got to walk a mile or two alone.

5) Time and space can heal anything.

6) Everyone is struggling with something or the other. Life isn’t a bed of roses for anyone. Be kind to yourself, be empathetic towards others, just makes the roller coaster ride called life easier.

7) Acceptance is the key to sailing through. Acceptance of the lows and the highs instead of battling it out in our minds helps us keep our sanity when life is tough.

8) Steer clear of all toxicity in  your relationships, your job and nip negativity in the bud.

9) Invest in the future: spend time with yourself,children, make time to meditate,read.

10) Disconnect from social media and technology and connect with yourself through anything that gives you joy and peace.

I might keep going back to this list as a reminder of how I would want to spend this year, what is on your list of reflections?

Walk away

They say it takes courage to

walk away

Instead courage is what it

takes to stay

To stay and yet distance yourself

from all that no longer soothes your soul

Detachment from all that no longer

lets you feel whole

Stay and yet allow all the hurt and pain to walk away

 

 

 

 

Words can hurt

Sticks and stones

only break bones

But it is words that seer through your soul

and tear it apart

Choose your words with wisdom

They have the power to hurt

and the power to heal a broken heart

Words alone can be the binding

glue for a world scattered like

shattered glass

The art of accepting life

 

With the traces of time and the touch of experience, we learn to stop fighting what life throws our way. It’s a rather slow journey which starts with us trying to battle what happens to us, question it and finally we learn the art of graceful acceptance. From a baffled why me you move to a never mind and finally settle for ‘ it happened for a reason’.

There comes a time when we learn to stop wrestling the darkness, stop letting tumultuous days get to us and start learning the art of accepting life in all its uncertainties, ugliness and veracity and finally we learn to embrace those uncertainties, and enjoy the roller coaster ride that is. It is all about making peace with the demons that haunt us.